Friday, July 27, 2007

First Fish

Dante caught his first fish yesterday! We went to the lake near our home and Dante got two catfsih, one right after another. They were biting like crazy. They are palm -sized catfish, but to Dante they were prized sport fish. Guess who handled them in her bare hands and helped pry the hook out to release them?! Dante is/was so excited he couldn't stop smiling. He also can't stop talking about it. I guess it is a reprieve from his incessant Star Wars Talk. I guess this means we are fishing again this weekend!

Tuesday, July 24, 2007

Jocular Jonah

We have been trying to potty train Jonah for the past few months. While at my parents he became very fixated on 'bathroom' type of things. My sister was getting ready to go to work and Jonah said to her "You goin' to work? You be home soon? You wearin' underwear?"

Tooth Fairy

Dante lost his first tooth yesterday! It has been loose for over a week and he has been very concerned that we might have to get a pincher to grab it and pull it out. It fell out on its own in the car on the way to swim lessons. We put it in the tooth fairy pillow from Grandma before he went to bed and in the morning there were four quarters in it's place, and fairy dust on the bed and his cheek! He is so enamoured with the fact that he was kissed by the tooth fairy! He won't let me wash the glitter off his face, and keeps looking at himself in the mirror and smiling at the shimmer still on his cheekAnd I thought he would only care about the money... Now I have to worry that Mommy might be easily replaced! :) Dante is now an official 'big boy.' How glorious the days of children!

Monday, July 23, 2007

Halloween hell

I have decided that sugar is from Hell. It is evil and it is why some people (The smart ones) forbid halloween and say it is the day of the devil. Sugar is from the devil. Who ever thought of giving a bunch of kids a shitload of candy late at night?! (Satan) And who ever thought to continue the tradition year after year?! (The DEVIL!!!!!) WHAT THE HELL WAS I THINKING? My neighbors may as well have passed out crack pipes and a lighter... My kids are practically foaming at the mouth today and I am ready to shoot myself. Yes, I finally see now why HALLOWEEN IS LUCIFER'S DAY!! sugar=cocaine=the devil's playground. Next year we pass out little bags of carrots... I refuse to contribute to this madness....(although we did pass out playdough this year which was a big hit. Better the mess than the high anyday.) Or maybe pass out Xanax for all the mommies and teachers?! HELP......ME.......


October 2005

Dante was coughing and said to me, “Mommy, I think I swallowed a grasshopper.” I laughed and said, “What do you mean?” He said, “Because I am sick. I must have swallowed a bug or something.”

December 12, 2005

Dante says to me “ mommy, I can’t take it anymore! I can’t wait for Christmas one more day!”

Christmas, 2005

Christmas morning, Dante is SOO excited and runs downstairs at 6 am to see if Santa came. He starts screaming; “he came! He came! Santa ate my cookies!” It is the first year that Dante understands the idea of Santa, baby Jesus, and presents. When he opened his gifts, he would lovingly turn them over in his hands, stroke the boxes and exclaim how pretty they were. We would encourage him to actually OPEN them. Before he did rip off the paper he would say to me “ What is it mommy? I ‘ve wanted it my whole life!”

January 14, 2006

Dante's first day of soccer! He was so excited and woke up early;it was almost as if it was Christmas day again. He had three meltdowns before leaving the house at 8:30 am because he was so anxious to go. When we got there he giggled uncontrollably and wore a grin that was contagious. We video taped and took lots of pictures. Unfortunately, I turned off the video right before he decided to pull his pants down and moon the crowd. When I finally stopped laughing and got him to pull them up again, I asked him why he pulled his pants down. He yells across the field at me "BECAUSE MY BUTT ITCHES!!!" Nice. All the parents were cracking up. I wonder if someone else got it on tape...Darn it that i didn't get it on video! We could have been the 10,000$ winner on America Funniest Home Videos!

February 20th

Deacon Jim was in town for a retreat, and I drove him back to San Diego. We decided to stop at McDonalds before the drive, so the boys could play before being cooped up in the car. Jim took the kids to the play area, and I went to get the food. When I brought the food back to the table, Dante had decided he wanted to sit next to Jim. I put the tray down and sat down, and Jim took his baseball cap off. Dante looked at Jims head and said with great awe” Whoa. You don’t have any hair. What Happened?!” Jim and I just chuckled but Dante was very concerned that he didn’t have any hair. He leaned back in his chair to look at the back of Jim’s head. He nodded to himself and said to Jim, “Oh. It’s all right. You have some in the back.”

March 9, 2006

Dante and I were laying (lying?!) on the couch this morning, and i was kind of dozing since I worked last night. I of course, was still in pajamas (jamanas as Dante calls them) and hadn't brushed my teeth yet. Dante had his face right next to mine, looked in my mouth and then scrunched up his face and says "PEEYUU! You stink on the inside!"

May 3, 2006
Hi all- here are some pics of our outing to the wild animal park. It was a gloomy day at the coast, so we decided to drive inland to the park and experience 'africa hot' weather. (amazing the difference in weather in 30 miles...) We had a fun time with Dante's friend Jason. This week was the last week of the butterfly exhibit, so I was glad to have seen it. They come every year, and they are always so beautiful! We went to my favorite Lorakeet enclosure, as well. Jonah gets so excited when we feed the birds. Today I had 4 birds land on me! Two on my arm, one on shoulder (screeching in my ear) and one who decided to nest on my head! Dante also had two land on him, and it made him very nervous. Just like last time, he has a love-hat e relationship with the lorikeets. He wants to go in and feed them, but gets the heebies when they land on him! When we were driving home, he said "mommy, those birds really freak me out!" It was a lovely day. Have a wonderful week- Love, tonya and troupe

June 9th

We went to the wild animal park today. I love digital cameras-the kids can play around with it without the worry of wasting film. I gave the camera to Dante so he could take pictures of rocks and trees, etc. Whenwe came home and I went to the computer to download them, I have about 10 pictures of very nice BOOBS on my camera. Not my boobs, but boob shots of various women at the park. I asked him what he was taking pictures of, he smiled and dreamily said "Ta-Ta's!" Maybe that extended breastfeeding wasn't such a great idea...

July 5th 2006
Dante was playing with a snail outside this morning. Jonah ran up to see what he was doing and accidentally stepped on the snail. Dante of course, screeched and was at first upset; but ever the optimist and since it is his birthday, nothing can get him down today! He looked at the snail, got a big smile on his face and said" Oh! Now it's a slug!"

August 15th 2006

Dante had a bump on his elbow and asked me what it was. I said “It looks like a pimple.” He said, “No it’s not- I think I must be growing a horn.”

August 20th 2006
We were at story time at Starbucks. The librarian asked the kids what a child kangaroo was called. Dante called out ” Ninos!” On the next story, the librarian asked who rides a school bus- My brilliant boy answers “the bus driver!” (well duh- how could we not know that?)

September 5 2006
I was washing Dante’s hair and he was getting impatient so I told him “ Hold on a second-I need to rinse.” He perked up and said “Is it a spot free rinse?”
July 2007
Dante has his first loose tooth! He has been very nervous about it and is constantly asking me if we are going to have to go to the dentist and use a pincher to get it out. I try to reassure him and say it will fall out on its own. I even tried to ease his fear by telling him that grandma is getting him a present for having his first loose tooth. He threw up his arms and shouted "Hooray! A present!" Then he got serious again, touched his mouth and said "I hope it isn't a pincher!"

Sunday, July 15, 2007

Road Trip/Spider Trouble

We just returned from a two week road trip to Washington State. We camped outside of Redding the first two nights at McArthur Burney Falls. It was beautiful and the sites were nice and big with pine needles on the ground, instead of dirt. It was gorgeous- the waterfall is 129 feet and over 100 million gallins of water flow over it daily. There is also a nice lake there with a swimming area and paddle boat rentals. We of course had to rent a boat so the kids could fish off of it. We saw lots of bass and trout jumping, but none on our lines! We plan on going there again. Redding is a pretty fun town, too. We went to Turtle Bay Explorer Center and crossed the 'world famous' sun dial bridge. It is an actual working sun dial and spans across the Sacramento River. We broke camp on Sunday and drove up to Portland. We then spent 5 days at my parents and Dante celebrated his 6th birthday (really! he is SIX!) at Big Al's- a mongo bowling alley and arcade near my family's home. He is absolutely in love with my sister's youngest son, Alex, who is wise and all knowing at age 11. Dante was his shadow, and actually has his first ever sleep over at his cousins' house! Alex was very accommodating and i think enjoyed his status as KING for a few days. We all (my parents and sister and her clan) went camping for three nights near Crater Lake. It was so nice there, too. We fished and toured Crater Lake Park and just relaxed. We have become experts at telling 'fish tales' as Dante insisted the four rainbow trout that he was given by some avid fishermen were really caught by him. He has the whole story down about reeling it in, almost falling in the water, etc. It is the only time a lie is not a lie and he cherishes it! :) We then said our good -byes to the family and drove to Santa Cruz and rewarded ourselves with a hotel room instead of a campsite The kids loved the pool and hot tub. It's a neat little eclectic town. Allan even bought himself some 'earthy hippy shoes' as a souveigner. We then drove the coast as far as Cambria-stopped to see the Sea Lions on the coast along the way and then zipped on down to SD on the Hwy 101. Its a much more scenic route than the I-5! We came home the night of July 4th, just in time to light our contraband sparklers and spinners purchased in Washington State and watch the Fallbrook fireworks from our neighbors backyard. It was really a great trip and the kids were AMAZING travelers and did the 10-12 hour drives like real troopers. Praise the Lord for portable DVD players! The only disaster was the GI-NORMOUS spider crawling up my leg while we were in the car driving home from L.A. The F-bomb was dropped, along with a few other choice expletives as i frantically tried to get it off me, find it again, squish it, re-squish it, and get its shriveled freaky carcass out the window against the wind, without it flying back into my face and in revenge, eat my eyballs. All the while Allan was trying to figure out why I was so hysterical as he wove in and out of traffic while I grabbed his arm and head trying to get away from the arachnid from hell. Did i mention it was CRAWLING UP MY LEG?! Allan, exasperated, kept telling me to stop grabbing him, stop swearing in front of the kids, and what the hell is going on anyway?! I think the word SPIDER should suffice, don't you?


My father’s eyes
Flash with anger at life’s injustice
Widen with joy at his daughter’s accomplishments
Spark with humor as we laugh.
I have rarely seen them fill with tears.

His eyes flecked with gold and green
Can tell you more
Than if he speaks aloud.
One look or stare is all that is needed to
Know if he is happy or displeased.

My father’s hands
Are strong and gentle
Tender and rough
Large and brown.
When I was child
He engulfed my palm in his.

His hands flew my kites
Fixed my bikes
Wiped my tears
Held me tight
Reminding me to be strong.

My father’s legs
Still strong after all these years
Once ran with me
And biked with me
Once chased my monsters
And my fears.

My father’s life-
My legacy- my history
My knowledge
Of love and more.

My father’s life
Is my life-
He has given me the key
To open the door.

What do I give to the man
Who offered me the World?
I am grown now

but will always
Be Daddy’s Girl.


The boys are sleeping-we did a 2 mile walk today. Jonah loves the stroller, and Dante rode his bike. I knew Dante was getting tired because he started stopping every hundred yards or so and say' my motorcycle is out of gas, i need to fill it up.' Whenever i asked if he was ready to go he would say, 'no, it's not full yet.' I had to bribe him with a chocolate milk with whipped cream from Starbucks to keep him going. We did get out and walk along the water for a bit, until Jonah tried to bolt in. He threw an enormous temper tantrum when i picked him up and wouldn't put him down. I had to practically sit on him to get him strapped in the stoller again. He throws tantrums like Dante did, but his peter out much faster. He screams and kicks and bashes his head for a few minutes, then finds his thumb, sighs, sniffs, and starts sucking and blinking his big eyes with tears still clinging to his lashes and drying on his cheeks. It's very dramatic and pathetic. :) Jonah is still sick with the cough and boogery nose. I think i will take him to the MD tomorrow to get him checked out. Being a nurse i am always torn about taking him in. Part of me knows its probably viral, will last 10 or so days, just give Motrin and fluids, blah blah. but then the mommmy part of me freaks and thinks It's cancer! It's meningitis! It's a foreign deadly something and i am irresponsible to not take him immediatly to the physician! (or is that just the neurotic part of me?!)


We are the richest country in the world, and yet cannot offer charity or even humanity to others who want to better their lives, and the lives of their children. I know if i were in their shoes, I would do all i could to come to America. As far as 'doing it legally'- I think if the poor had the $2000-dollars it took to just start the paper work, they would probably spend it on food for their children! It also takes YEARS to process. My sister-in law was trying to sponsor her mom to come here; it took SIX YEARS to get her here. And that is with a family member here in the states, willing to sponsor and pay for her to come here. If I lived in a third world Latin American country, i think i would take my chances to get here rather than watch my children starve.
Why do we see white guys on the corner with signs that say ‘will work for food” and 98% of all immigrants work? Immigrants work, sometimes with false SS cards, so they DO pay taxes yet cannot get the benefit that comes with it. For those who DON”T pay taxes, ‘legalize’ them, and they can. For those who send their money home, those family members in turn buy food and products exported from the US, which in turn benefits our own economy. Why do Mexicans ‘illegally’ cross the border? Many reasons for sure, in part because NAFTA bottomed out the miniscule wages they already made so we can buy cheap goods from rich companies like Wallmart, who offer little insurance to their employees.(but they do have a ‘how to apply for Med-cal” part of their orientation.) America spends more on health insurance for Wallmart’s uninsured, (at 56 million dollars a year) than we do for ‘illegals.’ The average hourly wage in Mexico is $4.60 a day…
How do we justify a county of 300 million++ -2/3rds of whom are suffering from ill effects of obesity, and be unwilling to help others who cannot even afford to feed their children?
I think the biggest irony is that we claim to be a Christian nation, and yet turn our hearts away from those who suffer, or are looking for a better life.

Romans 12 states:

....Rejoice with those who rejoice and be sad with those who sorrow. Treat everyone with equal kindness; never be condescending but make real friends with the poor. Do not allow yourself to become self satisfied. Never repay evil with evil but let everyone see that you are interested in only the highest ideals. Do all you can to live at peace with everyone.

Also Matthew 25 : 24-46

Then the King will say to those on the right, 'Come, you who are blessed by my Father. Inherit the kingdom that was prepared for you from the foundation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, a stranger and you welcomed me, naked and you clothed me, ill and you cared for me, in prison and you visited me.' Then the righteous will answer him and say, 'Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? When did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? When did we see you ill or in prison, and visit you? And the king will say them in reply, ' Amen, I say to you, whatever you did for the of these least brothers of mine, you did for me.' Then he will say to those at his left. Depart from me you accursed, into the eternal fire prepared, for the devil and his angels. For I was hungry and you gave me no food, I was thirsty and you gave me no drink, a stranger and you gave me no welcome, naked and you gave me no clothing, ill and in prison, and you did not care for me.' Then they will answer and say, 'Lord, when did wee see you hungry, or thirsty, or a stranger or naked or ill or in prison, and not administer to your needs?' He will answer them, ' Amen i say to you, what you did not do for one of the least ones, you did not do for me.' And these will go off to eternal punishment, but the righteous to eternal life.

So- I think if we can remember to see Christ in all we meet, even the unkempt, the unclean, and the unwanted, (whom he most loved, and most ministered to) we shall be less likely to judge, and more likely to love.
Just my thoughts on the subject… Pax Christi

Saturday, July 14, 2007

Seeing Red

I want to kick some 5 year old ass. I don't trust people that say they 'love kids.' Kids suck. Unless they are related to you and generally well behaved. We were at a party today that my six year old was invited to. I like the child who was the birthday boy, as he is one of the 'well behaved ones.' But two of the others are destined to spend some time in county jail. Dante, my boy, walked through the playground like a puppy who had just been kicked before he burst into tears and put his head on my shoulder. I could tell by the cry that it was a 'my feelings are hurt' not a 'i hurt myself' kind of cry. Between sobs he managed to tell me that the other boys decided they didn't want to play with him and called him a LOSER. Simple kids stuff? Proabably. But it brought back all kind of memories from my own childhood that I was ready to commit a felony. Now I don't want to be an over protective mother, but the mamma bear syndrome attacks hard when someone-anyone, hurts my boys. Little bastards. After I wiped Dante's eyes, and reassured him that he is the greatest kid in the universe and told him the little shits- i mean kids-are not being nice and to leave them alone, I scoped the playground like a sniper until i found them kicking sand in a girl's face. I smiled, called their names, and beckoned them to me. They stopped their torment and ran to me. I got down on one knee, looked right into their eyes, and let them know that I was watching them. Not that they cared, but I felt better as they ran off, stopped, looked back at me and then ran a little faster than before. Maybe they are thinking about being nice. More than likely they are thinking of ways to slash my tires. Just as i am thinking of ways to dispose of their bodies without getting caught. DON"T MESS WITH MOMMY.